What Do You Think about Off-Campus Coupling/Cohabitation Among Students

[newness]

Yeah. among male students, your ability to control so many girls and sleep with them up ones level among fellow student. students leaving off campus who has the privacy of engaging in bodily mix exploit it at its best. some go to the extent of getting a 'wife' to take care of the room. the wife who is a student is bent on pleasing the supposed husband: who know marriage may be in the offing. She neglects her studies trying her best guard her man from exploiting the next skirt. the guy on his own must provide, he must maintain, and sustain. Academics is no longer his main thought. the up keep of his 'family' has a place in his thought. If he is the intelligent type, he sacrifice his dream of good grades to that of ' after all i will graduate. Pls lets share thi thought.

[nwansukka]

Nice topic Newness.

I personally condemn this behaviour which is on the increase amongst off campus folks. The damaging side of the co-habitation is that most of this 'couples' loose their senses and the guys pregnant the very young girls. The thing is that some of these girls take in and head for abortion thereby cheating themselves and mother nature and disrupting their education. Others take in and give birth to beautiful "bastards" and even terminate their education. I feel for the girls involved in this as most of them end up regretting all their lives. You see, the thing with guys is that they hardly marry these girls after leaving Uni. To add salt to the injury, the girls spend all their money on the guys who has planned no future for them. Well, I may be wrong, but this is my candid opinion.

[phronesis]

What pains me most is that most young people forget the ultimate goal why they're in the University in the first place. Yes, fun? No one says anyone shouldn't have fun or relationship while in school. But, to have the "after all I must graduate" mentally has ruined a lot of people's future hopes and ambitions. As if that's not enough, most of the people involved in this mess come from decent homes and bring shame to their families.

Don't get me wrong, one male student to one female student relationship is not bad if the right things are done in the relationship, but, for a guy to keep flocks of female students for sexual purposes is crazy and usually ends in destruction of the parties involved. It's not only the girls future that may be at stake here, the guys equally have their future aspirations at stake.

Well, the worst mistake any student can make on campus is to see his/her studies as secondary and take dating/sexual relationship (be it for marriage reasons or not) as primary.

This is just my opinion and represents only my thoughts. What do ya all think?

[ActionMan]

Hmnnnn... ActionMan likes topics like this. Phronesis and Nwansukka, ActionMan totally disagree with you on this one. It's a free world! If a man decides to carry 20 girls while in Uni, so be it! If a man decides to make his education secondary and love-life primary, ActionMan says SO BE IT! Is it not Oyibo people that said "As you make your bed, so you lie on it?" Ehnnn, so, now if a man wants to graduate with 3rd class but enjoy the daughters of it, that one is not a problem nowh...abi, he'll still get a job in an Oil Company or Big bank even with his 3rd class. Me that made 2:1, I'm not still looking for a job?

Anyway, on a more serious note now, I think it should be first things first, take your education seriously, get the good grades, get an amazing job, and all them girls will follow suit.

HIV is real ooooooooooooooo....let him that has ears hear now.

[DJ Gbala]

Every man is entitled to a wife by nature of our creation, so the earlier one gets a wife the better. More still by paying your school fees ur also entitled to a babe or wife on campus cos, it covers for all....

[nwansukka]

DJ Gbala, that was sure funny School fees covering for babe and wife? Ewoooo.....this is really take and go! Are there women in this forum? They should tell us what they think ooo.

[adim2]

@poster
well, I disagree with you. it is not every guy that stays offcamp keeps a wife. I stay off camp but i don't have a wife and i am not a womanizer. i am not saying that i am holy ooo. It all depends on the guy's philosophy of life. We wey our popsi no get pay, but dey manage, know d reason why we dey school. Some of this big man pikin, some of them don get job already wey dey wait for them. So they can afford to misbehave. a good example, was ifesinachi's son that was rusticated in school for activity.. he needs not to worry. because work dey for am.. so it depends

[Okwyjesus]

lts never a wise decision starting what you cannot finish. Why be in a haste to live with the opposite sex when you will have all the time when you graduate and finally marry. Good grade is very important to any student because 2/2 is already a bad market in the Labour Market.
l learnt cohibition is the lifestyle off campus and am totally against such indiscipline from fellow students.

[adim2]

lts never a wise decision starting what you cannot finish. Why be in a haste to live with the opposite sex when you will have all the time when you graduate and finally marry. Good grade is very important to any student because 2/2 is already a bad market in the Labour Market.
l learnt cohibition is the lifestyle off campus and am totally against such indiscipline from fellow students.

I agree with you but it is not every offcamp student that cohabits. I can tell you that 80% of students staying in nsukka don't cohabit with their partner. And also who says 2/2 is a bad market. duo nobody wants to make a bad grade but 2/2 with your brain i don't think it is a bad market. So i totally disagree with you in those two aspect

[Priscal]

so wat ar u guys all insinuating?so it isn't advisable 4 a yr 1 chic 2 stay off camp or wat?

[adim2]

@priscal
that is not what we are saying, if you have the money and you want to stay off camp, you can do that. But not staying together with the opposite sex. That is what we are saying here

[Priscal]

@ adim 2  ok oooooooooooooooooooooo.i was just wonderin dats y i had 2 ask.so lets assume am ur sis where wld u advice me 2 stay?. in d hostel or off camp???.........ur answer mite do good...byeeeeeeeeee

[NOBLE]

TODAY IN THE UNIVERSITY OF NIGERIA,NSUKKA, CAMPUS COUPLING IS BECOMING A TRADITION. 75% OF THE WHO MOVE OUT OF THE HOSTEL TO LIVE OFF CAMPUS DO SO FOPR THE PURPOSE OF LIVING WITH THEIR GIRL FRIEND.
     I FOUND OUT THE LADIES CONTRIBUTE TO THAT COS MOST OF THE GIRLS NEVER WANT TO DATE ANY GUY WHO STAYS IN THE HOSTEL.THEY SEE HOSTEL GUYS AS NOT BEING RICH COMFORTABLE BOYS.
THE EFFECTS OF THIS COHABITING AMONG THE STUDENTS TODAY ARE NO LONGER A HIDEN SECRET.SOME OF WERE ASKED OF SOME DEPARTMENTS LIKE PHARMSI COS THEY WERE NOT PERFORMING WELL IN THAT DEPARTMENT.
          PLEASE FELLOW FORUMITES, HOW DO WE PUT AN END TO THIS CAMPUS COUPLING.

[ActionMan]

I think the University authority should build more hostel blocks and keep them clean. After this, they can make living in the hostel compulsory. Girls should leave in Girl's hostel while guys should leave in guy's hostel.

[NOBLE]

THE DISADVANTAGE OF CAMPUS COUPLING IS MORE THAN THE ADVANTAGES.NO TWO WAYS ABOUT THAT, BUT I THINK THE GIRLS INITAITE THAT. THEY ALWAYS ASK FOR THAT FROM GUYS. MY FLATMATE HAS EXPERIENCED THAT AND HE RECIEVED THE NEWS AS HE DID NOT GO WITH HIS MATES IN SKUL. HE IS STILL HERE WITH US.

[adim2]

it is not everybody dat co-habitate

[adim2]

I still maintain that it is only few people that co-habit in nsukka. reason being that they have enof hostels. unlike schools like esut, oou,unad etc. Also the high rate of religious activity on campus is also involve. so let us not shout it so much because the % is low. I will rate it 10%

[DJ Gbala]

Its only d 1 dat dsnt hav d moni 2 buy himself a bottle of dat alwayz condemns it. Co-habitation aint dat bad 2 me, if u've got d moni why punnish urself stayin in d hostel dats rily messed up? I'ld say d major reason y most peeps stay of camp is just for privacy which i knw very well u'ld not get frm stayin in d hostel.

[Com. Oz]

I think you should embark on a more intensive study to re verify your assertion. I think its more than stated.

[Pendragon]

Dats applicable 4 people who need 3rd class or a pass